WHAT'S YOUR TAGLINE?
ARE YOU SURVIVING OR THRIVING?
Several months ago I started using a smaller bathroom for showering and getting ready every day.
At the time I was in the middle of a huge life change and everything felt crazy and stressful so, when I moved everything into my new smaller bathroom, I didn’t have the time or energy to do much more than simply take what had been working in my bigger bathroom drawers and shove it into my new smaller drawers.
Now my life has settled down and I feel much calmer…except for each morning when I get ready to dry my hair. The hairdryer cord is tangled around either the tote that helped me organize my old bigger drawer or the bottles of hair products I don’t use anymore. When I reach for the 2 hair products that I actually use, I’m either fighting with the hairdryer or the tote…or both.
This has been going on for 4 months!! That’s approximately 120 times that I’ve been frustrated with something that I could easily change.
I’d gotten so used to the daily frustration that it had become my norm, until earlier this week when I paused and thought to myself “Why is this tote even in this tiny drawer?! It frustrates the hell out of me every day and it serves no purpose!”
After I took the tote out and either threw away or stored the hair products I don’t use, I started thinking….how many times have I done the same thing in other areas of my life?
How many times have I become so accustomed to something not being right for me that I simply stop paying attention to the negative impact it’s having on my life?
How many times have I become desensitized to how bad things are because it’s been that way for so long that it’s my norm?
A LOT!
WHAT ARE YOUR LIFE TAGLINES?
One thing I do with my clients is to help them find their life “taglines”. Your taglines are the beliefs that are the guiding force in your life. We’re usually not even aware of them and many don’t serve us any longer.
Two of my taglines were, “You get what you get and don’t throw a fit.” and “Go along to get along.”
These taglines served a purpose at one point in my life but because of them, over time, I’d become a women who basically “put up with a lot of shit”.
I accepted what life gave me and never asked for more. I became desensitized to the things in my life that weren’t working. I never asked for what I wanted because that might cause conflict and I avoided conflict like the plague.
As a women who put up with a lot of shit and never asked for more, I was simply coping with my life.
Endure, get by and survive are all synonyms for cope. I was enduring everything life threw at me without complaint. I was getting by with what was given to me in life and I never asked for more. I was surviving in life.
What I really wanted to do was thrive in life. Bloom, flourish and shine are all synonyms for thrive.
Are you enduring, getting by and surviving in your life or are you blooming, flourishing and shining in your life?
ARE YOU SURVIVING OR THRIVING
You’ve probably heard me say that the first step in making any change in your life is to notice; notice the things you want to change; or simply notice that your life doesn’t feel the way you want it to. Give yourself a big high five for that first step! It’s huge and it’s not always easy to admit to ourselves that we’re simply surviving.That was certainly the case for me.
Even though everyone’s journey looks different, there’s one thing that’s true for everyone…you must start with yourself.
I know it’s easy to point fingers at everything and everyone else in your life that isn’t working for you. We think that if “they” just changed then we’d be happy. It doesn’t work that way. I know because I tried that approach for quite a long time.
You’re the only person who has the power to create a life where you’re thriving.
It takes time, guidance and lots of compassion for yourself to unbury those taglines that are the driving force in your life. You’ve probably been living with them for so long that you aren’t even aware of them. Remember, these served a purpose at some point in your life but they just don’t serve you anymore.
Only you have the power to create a life where you BLOOM, FLOURISH and SHINE.
ARE YOU READY TO CREATE YOUR NEW TAGLINES?
Wondering about my new taglines? These are a few…
“Stop settling and start living.”
“It’s my time to shine.”
“Follow my truth.”
